Attaching in Adoption by Deborah Gray
This is one of the books our SW recommended to us. It took a while to get through, as it was our first experience with attachment. There were so many terms to learn, and issues to ponder and discuss. Gray has a wonderful way of writing this technical information but conveying it in a warm way.
She defines attachment, how it happens, and different kinds of attachment. She discusses the impact of trauma, grief and loss. Also, she brings up how the parents' issues, ones we think we may have dealt with, can come suddenly bubbling to the surface in the middle of a situation with our children.
This book was very educational. Gray gives a thorough explanation of a myriad of subjects related to attachment, trauma, grief, and loss. She gives many suggestions for parents and the biological/psychological/physiological reasons for the behavior. I recommend this book as a "first read" or an at "least this book" for adoption.
(Gray also has a new book out: Nurturing Adoptions. I didn't buy it, so I don't have it here to review. :(